Why is it that we focus on the negative?
We can be given 25 pieces of positive feedback and yet the one that is constructive is the one we remember...
This is why choosing one's words carefully when giving feedback is important
This is why anonymous feedback can extremely dangerous and unprofessional. Anonymity enables people to be careless with thier word choice and insensitive to the impact to the feedback recipient.
But for those of us who really want to do our best, even though we know we mess up (probably more frequently than others know) it's still hard to hear about our mistakes and improvement areas from others. No matter how much we want to learn and better ourselves.
There are areas of development that I know I have and have accepted that I need to work on... but there seems to always be one element in feedback that leaves me feeling sucker punched. If I cared less - it wouldn't matter.
But I care. A lot.
You do care a lot. It's one your your many qualities that make you who you are to all the rest of us.
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